and what if I did vent about my kids. You know people would suggest that it would be easier to just send them to school. they used to go to school and I can tell you this: it is not easier. Really it is worse because those bad moments are all crammed, into the few hours (or less) you have with them.
Sometimes the kids are disrespectful, generally if I am busy with something else. My biggest problem right now is 12year old SW. now I generally am irritated by 12 yr olds. Was long before I ever had kids of this age. I find that 12 - 14 period hard to deal with. I do not like the attitude, the melt downs or the attempt to be cool. I do not know if this is something all 12-14 yr olds do or if part of it is an attitude developed in PS. And lets face it, SW brought much of the PS baggage with him. And the worst of it is when it seeps into the other kids. He acts out and they follow suit. He rolls his eyes, uses negative body posture, and comments on how stupid it all is. Ko-Ko, looking at him and giggling at him then sometimes joins his lament. I could just scream.
So hear I am, on the computer, venting it out. i do feel better and they are now sitting in the living room reciting the poem "In Flanders Fields". Hopefully I will be back later today posting them reciting this poem, just to show we did manage to get over the hump that nearly made me cry, maybe finally created a gray hair on my head. So I am off in hopes of a beautiful afternoon. The kind us HS Moms love to share. The ones where we almost feel like this:
Aww I hope your day has gotten better!! And you're right about that age span, though my younger daughter started earlier & is still 14, so we'll see how long it takes to clear the attitude issues. Sometimes I even still see them rise their ugly heads in my 18 year old daughter. And then picture TWO teenage daughters going at it!! Sometimes I can laugh about the ridiculousness & sometimes, like you, I want to pull my hair out. In fact, lately there don't seem to be "days" necessarily like this, but there are times like this every day. Thankfully, my dd is getting past holding a grudge, so that we're usually able to move on. But I find discipline at this age more difficult too.
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Take care... Denise
Thank you. It is such a relief to hear someone day they are there or have been there. My eldest started this 2 yrs ago. Now my second. I have 6 more years of this difficult age group. Then a bit of reprieve before little Indy begins. I am also glad my frankness was helpful. My day did go better. Although I have not taped them saying the poem yet as SW has not been able to get through his one verse. We will accomplish it for tomorrow I am sure.
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